I want to make coming to the meeting as easy and approachable as possible. Below, I describe what typically happens when we meet.
At the beginning of the meeting, I will tell you how much time we have for the encounter. I may ask you if you want to take a breath. I may guide a small moment of presence.
If that seems useful to me, I may briefly say something about what has happened in previous sessions.
I will then ask you about what you want to work on. The topic you name is not intended to limit what happens in the session. However, it does at least give you aomw direction in the beginning, something to focus on.
The encounter itself can go in many directions, depending on your needs.
During the session, I take care of the time, which means that you can forget about the clock completely. You can focus fully on what you want to work on and on your own world of experience.
As the meeting draws to a close, I may often support you to return to everyday life, trying to sum up some of what has been talked about.
More about the approach
The most important thing for human growth is openness and presence to what is happening in you right now. I am committed to supporting you with staying with your experience, in whatever it is.
“You are calm and I feel safe to be here with all this”
– customer, male, 30 years old
The basic approach is that I won’t be telling you my views on the things you’re talking about, I’ll give space. Both the answers to the questions that bother you and the resources to find those are ultimately within you, and my role is to hold space for you to find those.
Although I don’t normally share much of my opinions, you still don’t meet a stone wall in me. In a session with you I am still me: a living, genuine, sensing person. If something touches me, for example, I’ll probably tell you about it.
What I want is more flexibility and ease, that this kind of engagement brings – and I want more of this, and I’m also afraid of inviting more of this and making space for more of this. And I find it to be really comforting. That really helps me just to… it really soothes my body.
It feels really really safe. I just want someone to accompany me and not try to fix it. I just really value this space of consistent safety.
customer, male, 50
Over and over again, I get feedback that this kind of mirroring helps the other to notice their own feelings better on their own, and to allow them to surface. When we are allowed to live our emotions freely, it often allows life to flow within us. This allows new experiences and enthusiasm to enter the scene of our experience.
There is the word guidance in the title of the front page. I do I have long experience and also a science-based background understanding of how to find connection with yourself and how to achieve goals. Still, the premise of guidance is that I don’t take a comment unless asked for – you get to look at your life in peace. The best results usually end up coming from your own presence, and from finding your own clear will.
If it is agreed upon together, it is also possible to end up with a more solution-oriented way of working.